Trigger Warning for domestic violence, abuse.
This video was played on the BBC early this morning at around 1am as an appeal video for Comic Relief. Comic Relief is a British charity that’s aim is to use comedy to raise money for various different causes.
Relevant to this specific video, Comic Relief works with Refuge - a wonderful charity that supports women and children who are suffering from domestic violence from a partner or parent. Please support charities like Refuge and Eaves (particularly in this current climate of government hatred and apathy towards the vulnerable, and basically everyone who isn’t a millionaire).
If you are a man, please sign up with the White Ribbon Campaign and pledge to stand against violence against women:
I pledge to never commit, condone, or remain silent about violence against women.
As sort of a side question, to those of you who watched Red Nose Day yesterday: What were your thoughts about how the campaign was presented?
Most women leaving violent relationships return at least once because their self-authority has been eviscerated and replaced with a partner’s authority. Think Stockholm Syndrome. Rihanna probably needs support, not criticism, and her return could be a cause for teaching, not despair.
This is a microcosm of the frequent difference between the original battered women’s centers that were or are run by survivors, and some of the current Family Violence Centers run by people with degrees. The survivors supported women in making their own decisions — because they themselves knew from experience. The second too often repeated the problem by telling women what to do one more time."
Gloria Steinem’s response to Lena Dunham name-dropping her during some vomitous hand-wringing concern trolling about Rihanna
If you mock and belittle and insult a DV victim for being abused or staying with or going back to an abuser, you are telling them that their abuser was right about what other people think of them and how little support there is for them from others so idk enjoy living with yourself if you like talking about how you’re “so done” with a woman for being “so stupid” or whatever
And you’re the one who’s “sending a bad message” to young girls because the message you’re sending is “I will completely abandon you if you’re ever in this situation and I might say it’s all your fault too”